My First Blog!

 Hello! I am Lady Di and have decided that it was high time I started blogging about my life and its relationships!

I have been enjoying and cursing life with the same man since 1983 and we are getting ready to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary in April. People don't like to hear about the facts of our relationship. Like the fact that he is the most wonderful and yet the most terrible man I know and how I have never loved and hated one person more in my life. I believe they think I am crazy. Well, maybe I am crazy....but aren't we all just a little bit insane when it comes to loving another human being for life?

A huge task, that is what marriage is. I was reading that the divorce rate is down since the 1980's and 1990's. I think it is due to the fact that people of the younger generation have seen their parents and grandparents divorce and have decided they will just live together and ultimately, legally be uncommitted to one another.

The word love is a verb. It is an action. For someone to know you care for them you must let them know. Whether by a smile or kind gesture~ someone has to make the first action or there will never be a reaction. Most of us are so self centered and lazy that we typically wait for the other person to speak or move.

When my honey and I are in an argument (which is not all the time because there are times of pure bliss.... and then times of pure hell!) we will get away from one another for a time. We don't leave one another- in fact in all of our years together we have never split or even gone and stayed with our parents or a friend for a night. He will go in the garage or on the computer or out in the yard and I will go to the office or yard or kitchen and do some baking. We have learned that distancing ourselves from one another for a time but still staying on the premises is the best way for us to end our anger. We have always had fairly large homes and yards so there's been enough space to distance ourselves and heal.

The one thing about our relationship that I really wish we could change is the yelling! We tend to yell at one another like we never would to another human being we wanted to ever spend time with. I was raised in a home where my parents did not fight in front of us kids. They did not swear or talk down to one another. So the first time Wes yelled at me and used some choice words, I was devistated. I thought that our marraige would never make it and we would divorce. I did not know how to fight back. My parents did not show me by example how to fight fair. I was not equipped to defend myself against his accusations and so I cowarded back into the bedroom and cried for hours.

I am not saying that fighting and yelling is the way to go! I am saying that there are times that we as parents can try and shelter our children and teens from life and it really does them an injustice for when they get out on their own. Because there WILL be encounters where we need to know how to fight and stand up for ourselves. I have learned to stand up for myself. I will not be talked to like a dog and have no response. I just hope and pray my kids know how to do it from the start and not have to learn it the hard way like their old mother!

I am going to be writing in the future about our 25 years together and some of the UNREAL situations that our relationship has made it thru. How the power of prayer and our faith has brought us thru and will continue to bring us thru victoriously~ TOGETHER...NOT ALONE!

The healing sun!

Love is in the air when the sun is in the sky! Have you noticed this? We have been noting this here in Washington state. When it is gloomy and dark outside~ people get cranky! Turn that around to a sunny clear day and it seems there are smiles on everyone's faces and all is well.

When the rays of the sun are beating down on us it's as if everyone around us has taken a dose of happy! I can detect this character in myself and my husband also. 

There's one person in my life that I don't see this happening to.  This up and down, high and low personality. It's my teen aged son. He has a very even temperament and welcomes me each morning out of a dead sleep with a smile. He kisses me goodbye in the mornings and tells me he loves me and when I return home from work he ALWAYS greets me at the door with a smile, a kiss and an I love you! If I am down he tells me it's all gonna be okay. He loves to cuddle me and talk to me and has true concern for my well being. 

I am amazed at this dude's joy and how he shares that joy with me every day of my life! He is such a light in my day. He is like the sunshine after a rain. It is refreshing to know and share daily life with someone like this and he will make some lucky lady a very good husband one day! 

So when the sun is behind the clouds and there is no end to the rain in the near future, I just go to Buddy and he brightens my days!

Oh Sunny boy, how I love you so!